can I ever win??

Did you ever tell your child not to do something and then it blow up in your face???

Case in point: phone rings and child answers it (that in itself was shocking that he didn't ignore it). The person asks for A. A is not home...he is at work. So instead of asking "do you want to speak to my mother" or even " can I take a message?" No, he says" oh you can call him on his cell phone" and proceeds to give out cell phone number...and hangs up. So silly me asks "who was that on the phone?"
Child: don't know (w/o any emotion)
Me: so you just gave out your father's cell phone number to a complete stranger
Child: well if they were asking for him must be they know him
Me: no, not necessarily. Please don't do that again. In fact (by this time I'm fuming about his non emotional responses) JUST DON'T ANSWER THE PHONE...LET ME !!!
Child : okay

So not more then 3 minutes later.. phone rings.......... and rings and rings and rings..I'm in a different room so I can't answer it. So I scream " can someone PLEASE answer the phone??"  Child calls back " Well I would but you just told me to not answer the phone anymore" Sure...now he chooses to listen the FIRST time I tell him something...and REMEMBERS

Great..me and my big ideas. So now every time the phone rings no matter who is sitting next to it...they won't answer it.

Reflections post Bar Mitzvah

So it is Sunday evening and it is quiet...okay except for the hum of the dishwasher and washing machine which has been running all day. I don't have the Bar Mitzvah notebook out in front of me crossing things off the list. I'm not checking any lists to make sure I didn't forget something. I'm just trying to clean up....which will take another day to wash everything and put everything back in it is rightful place.

Now it is time to reflect...It was a beautiful Bar Mitzvah. Yes,  it was a HUGE amount of work but I'm so happy BA"H with the way everything turned out. MN did a GREAT job with his leining, made us proud when he made his siyum. It was a great Shabbos. Family & family traveled from afar to be with us. We counted and had representation from  8 states...not too shabby.

When I invited in towners for Shal Seudos I said it takes a village to raise a child. I truly mean it. Everyone who came over Shabbos to celebrate with us had a influence on MN's life. I was touched by the outpouring of help I got. Friends offered to help with whatever I needed. Whether it was housing people or cooking I knew I could count on my friends to help with whatever I needed.

So I want to say Thank YOU !!! Thank you for being there for my family to celebrate our simcha with us. May we continue to share in simchas with each other.